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Loosen the Reins

When the kids go to bed. Ahh, when the kids go to bed. There’s this moment. This moment of just “ahhh.” Then there’s the moment after when “the list”, you know the one, the one that never ends, comes rushing to the surface. There’s the laundry, the kids’ bags for the morning, the dishes, the pile in the corner of accumulated stuff that needs to find a home. There’s the guilt if you decide to sit down and watch your favorite television program.

I work 40 hours a week. I have three boys 5 and under. I have little time to fit it all in. I want to find easy solutions. I want to find balance. I want to find time just for me, and time for my boys. Find time to just laugh. Simplify things. But where do you start?

This week’s lesson for me is to let go of the reins. I’m not good at this at all. Call it the Virgo control freak in me. It’s just not in my nature. I have always been the one that takes care of everyone else. I’m talking from the time I was in kindergarten. It’s who I am. I have to realize that my husband is completely capable of loading and unloading the dishwasher, or making dinner before I get home from work. Does he prepare a meal like I would? No. He’s not obsessed with Rachael Ray like I am. You put the EVOO in the pan, not the butter! But I came home Friday to dinner already in the oven and the clean dishes from the dishwasher put away…Saved me a half hour. A half hour I was able to enjoy with my boys and play a game of Memory and laugh. Just letting go a little bit can gives you a whole new perspective. Why don’t I do it more often? Loosening the reins…it’s hard, but it’s my new quest. We’ll see how it goes.

3 thoughts on “Loosen the Reins

  1. Oh yes, let your husband do that work! I know what you mean. My husband doesn’t fold laundry the “right” way. I don’t complain. I quietly refold mine when he’s not looking and leave everyone else’s. The kids just throw their folded clothes in a drawer and it ends up in a jumbled heap anyway. Good luck!

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