Is it really bribery or is it compromise? Maybe we can call it rewards? It may just be a sticker, an M&M, or a trip to the park. What ever you want to call it you know we all do it. I just don’t like the word bribery, it has a negative connotion…so I tend to words like compromise or reward. I’m guilty of it. I do it on a daily basis. Finnegan goes potty (swedish fish), Logan is kind to his brother (gummi worm), Deacon gives up the toy he is playing with to his crying baby brother (video game time). It’s a vicious little cycle. They are rewarded for behaving kindly. What? Wait a minute, the more I keep typing the worse this is sounding. Should you really be rewarded for being kind? How about just using the phrase “do on to others…”
The two older boys have a package at Grammie’s house right now and I’m holding over their heads. It’s horrible, I know. However, they have been a little out of control lately. I think they need their ears checked because they just don’t seem to listen lately. Even with the thought of the package sitting over at Grammie’s they still gave me a hard time about going to bed tonight. Well, I should correct that, only one of them gave me a really hard time. The same one who had a fit this morning because I wouldn’t let him have Easter candy and chips for breakfast. The big brother can just be plain thoughtless and rude to his younger brother and it drives me crazy. Breaks my heart actually. I think I have shouted the words “package at Grammies!!” twenty times today…I work all day so I’m only around them for approximately 4 hours a day. It’s ridiculous! So I think I’m pulling the plug on all the fun privileges…donuts, mattress in the living room on movie night, video games, sugary treats, and looking at toy reviews on You Tube (Logan). I’m done with it all. The only rewards they’ll be seeing is stickers on their chore charts if they’re lucky. I know it might be unrealistic, and I will cave on a few things I’m sure. A mom needs to pick her battles; but there will definitely be some changes around here. I don’t want to raise kids that feel entitled to something every time they do a good deed. A pat on the back will do.