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A Loved One’s Name

Sheri (When the Kids Go To Bed)

Not to be morbid on what is a glorious day…FRIDAY, but as the colder weather sets in and the holiday madness is about to begin I find myself missing those I’ve lost even more than usual. It happens every so often, usually when there is a turn in the seasons.

One thing I found that helps this ache is saying that person’s name, not just in your head, but out loud. We go a long time without saying their name because they are no longer in our lives. I find saying their name out loud releases some of the pain and makes me feel like they’re still here with me. So sometimes, when I’m alone, standing in my kitchen or driving in the car I say her name out loud…and it feels so good. I know she’s right there with me. I know it may sound a little crazy, but it makes the corners of my mouth turn up. Unfortunately, I have quite a few names on my list of those I call out to. But that just means I had and still do have a lot of love around me.

Who are you missing? Just say it.

8 thoughts on “A Loved One’s Name”

  1. Such a small action but such a profound impact. It reminded me of my home as a kid. My parents had a small section of a wall in our home with photos of loved ones who’d passed away. It’s so easy with the passage of time to forget to remember. Thank you for this.

  3. I couldn’t agree more. This time of year is hard on those of us still here. I like to do things that honor them during the holidays. I am lucky enough to have my Great Grandmother’s china and we often use it for Thanksgiving or Christmas. Warms my heart to see everyone sitting around enjoying what she left behind. There I said it!

  4. Glad to have found you via Moms Take Back. I get sad this year for many reasons. Mainly, I think it’s because holidays to an adult are sooo different than holidays to a kid. I want the magic for my kids, but sometimes just want a break from it as an adult.

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